An emotional segment on a recent Today Show episode featured a wife who divorced her husband after 44 years of marriage in order to protect assets from a a long term illness. Suggesting the divorce, and also appearing on the show, was Massachusetts attorney Hyman Darling, a member of the National Association of Elder Law Attorneys (NAELA).
The husband of "Roberta" (not her real name) was diagnosed with dementia after the couple had been married more than 40 years. When she became unable to care for him at home, Roberta moved her husband to a nursing home and began paying bills of between $7,500 and $8,000 a month. After she had gone through $75,000, her husband's neurologist suggested that she find "a really good lawyer."
Roberta found Darling, an elder law attorney with the firm of Bacon & Wilson, P.C., based in Springfield, Massachusetts. Darling suggested to her that, as a last resort, she could terminate her marriage. This would preserve her remaining assets and allow her husband to quickly qualify for Medicaid coverage of his nursing home care.